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It’s OK to be a Home-Maker

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It is.

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It really is okay to be a homemaker, a housewife, a stay-at-home Mum, whatever you want to call it. I was pondering this as I vacuumed my house today.

I reckon this job is the most denigrated job in the Western world nowadays.

And it is a job. It is hard work with absolutely no financial rewards.

And that is what this world values highly isn’t it? Money. Power and prestige go a long way too.  But generally what the world values and considers important is the opposite to what God values and considers important.

Being a homemaker has none of those rewards. The work one does is generally thankless. There is certainly no prestige to scrubbing toilet bowls and making shopping lists. And power? Good grief – what’s that?

But I will confess – I love it.

Yes I do. I enjoy cleaning up and keeping my house tidy. I enjoy folding washing and putting it away. I take pride in my home and like sharing it with others. I enjoy growing vegies in my garden and the reward of harvesting them. I enjoy buying trinkets and decorative items for our home. Does this make me shallow and materialistic? Maybe. Yet I will continue to like it anyway. I love being there when my kids are home from school. I love being able to help them with homework and listen to readers. (Disclaimer: I do dislike cleaning the shower and ironing, any ironing…)

Am I a martyr?

I don’t think so. I just have zero ambition in the workplace. Absolutely ZERO. Gosh that even sounds wrong to me to admit to that.

The thought of climbing a corporate ladder does not appeal to me. All that effort and energy going into some impersonal corporation – ew. But the thought of putting effort and energy into my family and kids, the idea that I can build something into them by being with them and making their home lovely gives me pleasure.  I AM this kind of “ambitious” when it comes to my family.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have a problem with mums who do paid work. I think they are amazing. I honestly don’t know how they do it. I get that the system is set up so that most families can only survive on double incomes. And single mums? I know lots of them and wow, they are quite simply heroes – carrying the burden of everything at once.

stay at homeBut I do want to free up stay-at-home mums. For the last few decades what we do has been cast aside as pathetic, old-fashioned and value-less.

I am here to say that being a homemaker is the exact opposite of that.

It is not pathetic to take pride in your work around the home and with your children. It is a GOOD thing. God’s Word says :

“And whatsoever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord…” Colossians 3:23

You can be a home-maker and intelligent.  You can be a housewife and contribute to society.  You can be a stay-at-home Mum and be inspired.  What we do is just as important as paid work.

For any stay-at-home mums out there, what you are doing is worth more than a billion dollars. You are creating a loving, caring, clean and lovely home for your family. You are building into your children, time, energy, effort, love and there is no way to measure that value.

Take heart, there is someone who sees your hard work and He will reward you one day.

God bless,

Belinda

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15 thoughts on “It’s OK to be a Home-Maker

  1. I see my two grown boys and I know that I was one of the biggest influences in their lives because of my choice to stay home with them. The lack of appreciation can be in the home too… I remember when my son was in 1st grade and asked me what he should do when he grows up. I gave the typical parent’s answer: “You can do anything.” His response was, “But you didn’t grow up to be anything.” I am sure his answer would be different now that he is an adult and especially when he becomes a father. 🙂

    • I had to laugh reading your comment – I think I have had the exact same conversation with my 2nd grade son! He even said to me the other day “You’re lucky, you get to stay home and do nothing while I go to school”!! Yes I am sure when they have their own children they will see the value of being/having a stay-at-home-mum. Isn’t that the way though? I didn’t really appreciate my own mother until I became one myself! Very humbling…. thank you for the comment 🙂
      Belinda

  2. A PERFECT POST… I applaud you. I have done both. Western society does place more value on working outside the home, i.e., bringing in a paycheck. But at what cost? I know plenty of working moms who only do so because they have to, and I know some who work because they want to. No matter what the choice, all moms are valuable and we are some HARD-WORKING people! I take more pride in seeing my children run safely around my clean home than I ever got from working eight hours for an amount of money someone who does not know me has determined my work is worth, doing things I did not care to do.

    • Amen – my sentiments exactly! I take comfort from knowing that God knows how hard mothers work, not only physically but emotionally and spiritually on behalf of their families, even if society doesn’t. Thank you for taking the time to comment 🙂
      Belinda

  3. Beautifully written! I have lived both lives. I stayed at home with my daughter for three years and then had to return to the working world. I miss my time at home but I enjoy working, too. I wish that people would realize that neither choice is wrong if that is where God led you!

  4. I thoroughly agree with your blog. I have worked outside the home and I have stayed home. The hardest I ever worked, in my life, was when the children were really young, and I was home with them all the time. There was no lunch break, or morning tea break. However, it was very satisfying to be with the children watching them grow, seeing them learn etc. I must agree I also enjoyed keeping the house clean and orderly – when possible!!!! We had a large toy room, which was marvellous fun for the children.

    • Yes, I agree. I worked full-time for many years before I had kids but when I had my babies that was when I got to know the meaning of true never-ending, no-breaks hard work. It certainly is worth it though! Thanks for the comment. 🙂

  5. The primary issue for a Follower of Jesus is what God calls us to do! Depending on our situation my wife and I have traded who stays at home. And our daughters and grandchildren are closely connected to us. We didn’t have much money raising the girls, but we had what we needed and they have each made us proud. That’s priceless.
    Peace

    • Oh absolutely, praise God for that. That’s a wonderful testimonial. I hope and pray my husband and I will also be close to our children as they get older.
      God bless 🙂

  6. This. All of this for me the other week as well…. down to the Bible verse.

    It’s neat how God speaks His same truths to someone on the other side of the globe.
    Lerve it!
    (:

    • Wow, praise God. I felt that this post was for someone in particular, thank you for letting me know!
      God bless
      Belinda 🙂

      • I wanted to also share a great website/blog which had a pin floating around which also backed up what God was speaking to my heart and was used in my growth!
        The simple phrase: Homemaking is a Ministry
        Like…totally wow.

        And this all is coming after praying for the last couple of years since I’ve been a mom. I always “knew” who I was before I had kids, but the things I *thought* were me held zero interest.
        So asking God “Who am I? What am I doing? How can I be Your Hands and Feet at home shacked up at home 24/7 with two toddlers?!”…
        I got my “Well, duh.” moment.
        My ministry is my home. With the two humans God put in my charge to teach about Him…and my unsaved Hubby.

        Yes. Yes. and Yes.

        Anyhow… I thought I would share more detail. I was almost asleep at the typing wheel when I commented last night. ;))

        Enjoy your day. Er evening where you are. May God give you abundant joy. Amen!

        (And here is that post: http://avirtuouswoman.org/homemaking-ministry-sundays-home/)

      • You are so right. Our first and most important ministry is our home and family. The Lord had to teach me that through a series of hard lessons. I think we tend to feel less important teaching our children than if we were up on a platform somewhere preaching, but in fact our family is what God would have us to do. Your children and husband are SO important to HIm. it really is about stopping for the one in front of you isn’t it? I pray that God will bless you in your most important ministry of all. I pray that you will be the salt and the light in your home and that your husband and children will be irresistibly drawn to the light of Christ in you. God bless you abundantly. (And thanks for the link – will have a look) 🙂

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